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FOR THE WOMEN WE HAVE THE ZODIAC MAN!
This is a source of great advice for winning the heart of any man of the Zodiac. 

OK. New Year's arrived and left. Some of those New Year's resolutions are still in play and others have fallen by the wayside. The attempt to change is really what's important. By making an attempt, even an unsuccessful one, you are on your way to making things better. Very, very few people who have quit smoking, lost weight or made any sustainable change have done so on their first try.

Resolutions are wonderful. They are particularly good to give you a jump-start on getting what you want. However for day-to-day living, resolutions only take you so far. What you need is a way to get through the day when the excitement of making resolutions is a faded memory.

You need a plan - a strategy. Without that, you are as they say "dead in the water." Remember what you need to do to implement the change. If you want to lose 15 pounds, think about what needs to happen in order for you lose those fifteen pounds. Whatever food that's in the house that qualifies as "junk" food has to vacate the premises. Sooner or later you'll know the food is in the house even if it's stashed away in the hidden recesses of garage. No more big bags of chips or cookies. If you truly crave salt or sugar, keep individual servings so you're aware of what a portion looks like and can eat your favorites for enjoyment not in excess. Eat everything in sight the moment you get home from work? Have a snack at about 3:00 o'clock at work that has some protein and carbohydrates. You get the idea. Plan ahead and come up with viable substitutes so you don't regress to familiar, bad habits. Most importantly, act on your plans.

You'll also want to be clear on the benefits you will gain once you've achieved your goal. See the possibilities. It's more than the 15 pounds. It's more energy for, more confidence and living an extraordinary life.

The date of January 1 or February 1 or Monday or Sunday is completely arbitrary. You are not waiting for a specific date. Do not let the calendar dictate your actions. Just be true to your internal calendar. Do not be hard on yourself if you're not ready to act. When you're ready, you will achieve what your mind tells you you can achieve. You know when you're ready and I call this the "moment of truth". It's when you take the first step even a baby step to commitment and then on to action. Obtaining a healthy weight has become a priority.

What is not arbitrary is the reason you are making the change. You may have heard this before but it is worth repeating. Make the change for yourself not for anyone else. No one else can do it. You alone do the work for yourself. Others can support you and guide you. However, unless someone is spoon-feeding you, you lift the spoon to your mouth to gain nourishment.

You have a plan, the knowledge of the good things losing weight will give you - feeling good, feeling confident and having more energy - and the belief that you can do it. The external search is not where you will find the way to lose weight. It is only more illusions of the quick fix. You will change and see weight come off when you've adjusted your beliefs from the inside out. Go ahead. Trust yourself to do the work on your time.

About the Author:
Helene Haber is a Life Coach/ Specializing in Weight Loss. Please email her for a complimentary session at TopCatHelene@aol.com

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